Unconditional Love and Vulnerability

I truly believe that one of our main purposes on this planet is to learn about vulnerability forgiveness and how that can lead to us experiencing unconditional love
Unconditional love is just that unconditional- it knows no limits, it is not held or bound by society conventions and it holds no judgement or expectations.
Once experienced it is unforgettable and truly one of the most beautiful powerful things we can experience in a human body.

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Unconditional love and forgiveness aren’t things we can intellectualise - we may know theory about them - but we have to have truly experienced or felt them to understand their power and beauty.

“Unconditional love really exists in each of us. It is part of our deep inner being. It is not so much an active emotion as a state of being. It’s not “I love you” for this or that reason, not “I love you if you love me.” It’s love for no reason, love without an object. It’s just sitting in love, a love that incorporates the chair and the room and permeates everything around. The thinking mind is extinguished in love.” Ram Dass

Animals and newborn babies are ways that we commonly feel our hearts open to unconditional love You may believe that you unconditionally love your partner, children and pets. It’s useful to reflect on this, do you have any expectations or judgements around what you perceive them to be doing or not doing ? Do you control them in any way ? Do you forgive them but only with conditions attached?

The reality is that we all add conditions at various times to our relationships, the key is to start to understand why we do that.

“Accept the children the way we accept trees—with gratitude, because they are a blessing—but do not have expectations or desires. You don’t expect trees to change, you love them as they are.”
Isabel Allende

I’m not talking about boundaries to teach and help keep kids safe, I’m talking about “ if he loves me he would do or say this “. Or “ I only wish he or she would change this” or “I will love him when he shows me he’s serious” etc etc

Being vulnerable and allowing yourself to love and unconditionally love takes great courage.
If we are able to do that, then we are showing another human being our true divine self. But you are also experiencing yourself as a truly unconditionally loving human being and that can feel amazing and beautiful.
I can hear you all saying “ yeah but, he hurt me, he was toxic, he was .... fill the blank “ Unconditional love isn’t about suffering or condoning another’s behaviour it’s about seeing it, forgiving them and maybe yourself and walking away with no resentment, no bitterness no unfinished business. To truly forgive and love someone unconditionally means that you can cleanly and calmly walk away with no need to ever revisit it, either in talking with another or with the person themselves.

Yesterday on a post on my personal facebook page about being vulnerable, a friend wrote that you had to be careful with your vulnerability that it was something precious to be treasured and protected, guarded and only shared with the deserving.
This is one of the “traps” the ego sets for us, the ego is all about letting us believe the illusion of separation, that we are separate from the whole, that we are not one with the Divine.
If we decide that another person isn't worthy of our love, or our vulnerability because they won’t care, or we may be hurt, we are listening to the ego, and this encourages us to be isolated and to believe the illusion of separation.

If another person hurts or wounds our heart, then this is a reflection within us of what isn’t whole in us or needs attention or healing.

I appreciate that in terms of suffering violence or abuse, this concept is very difficult, and not one that we are exploring here, other than to say, that the Universal Big Picture is always full of Love and healing on levels that we may never understand until we are ascended.
Vulnerability, and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable allows us, gifts us a doorway to experience unconditional love. Another person can’t complete us or make us whole, only unconditional love of ourselves and the planet can do that.

Artist Cameron Grey

Exploring Unconditional Love and Vulnerability
I invite you to simply consider how you put conditions or expectations on those you love, how could you do that differently ?

Affirmations and visualizations can help you feel closer to your divine self and unconditional love:

Affirmation: it is safe for me to open my heart - I allow unconditional love to pour through me and from me.
I am unconditional love.

The simplest visualization, is to visualise your heart centre as a huge flower with 33 petals opening with rose pure white light and imagine your heart so wide that it fills your chest and beyond and the unconditional love and light from your heart fills the world. 

Debbie, Lotus Divine Inspirations, Pinehaven, New Zealand 15th February 2018


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